YouTube Videos on Various Topics that Support Joy-filled Living and Loving
EMBODIMENT PRACTICES
Is DOMESTICITY DUMBING DOWN your DESIRE?
How to find DELIGHT & DELICIOUSNESS again in DAILY LIFE
Domestic Life is beautiful and sacred and precious AND it can also leave us women feeling deathly dry, exhausted, and drained. Domestic life can make us feel as if we are this DOING MACHINE that never stops (except while sleeping………….sometimes), because there is always a never-ending list of things to do. We don’t have time for ourselves and our energy tank often feels low, or on reserve, or totally EMPTY. This video is about this topic and I also share the SIX SECRETS for SENSUAL ALIVENESS in DAILY LIVING.
Home for the Homeless Mind – Central Channel Breathing Video 1
The best and one of the most effective, simple, and easy ways to bring the mind back home to the body is via the BREATH. It’s all about the breath AND it is so much more than the breath! CENTRAL CHANNEL BREATHING (CCB), that I learned from Dr Sue Morter in 2019, has changed my life. When I realized that so much of my suffering was because I was lost in thought and thinking, living in the past and the future, giving lots of attention to stories in my mind about my life situation, thinking about everything, engaging with myself, the world, and others through my mind. AND when I realized that most of my thoughts were not true – well…….. that just blew my mind away and right open! I have done yoga and pranayama for more than 30 years, Art of Living as well, but it was only when I learned Central Channel Breathing from Dr Sue, that the penny really dropped in and I just got it! What did I get? The recognition and clear seeing and perceiving of Being (Awareness, Presence, God’s Being, Stillness, I AM) as a felt experience in the body, became established and it felt like Home – spacious, open wide, peaceful, calm, deep sense of wellbeing, safety, and ease. Quiet joy. Quiet confidence. Happiness for no reason. And then…….. the seeing that mind was homeless and the best way back to the home of Being for mind, became the Central Channel Breath. Watch this Video below to learn how to practice Central Channel Breathing – it will change your life too. Thank you, Dr Sue and ALL the teachers and guides that have blessed my life, more than words could ever speak of……..but the heart knows and overflows with gratitude!
Home for the Homeless Mind – Central Channel Breathing Video 2
How do you know if you are living mostly from your head and not from your whole Being? If you can relate to a lot of these: • Thinking A LOT – over analyzing and lost in thought • Judging, criticizing, comparing, blaming of self and others • Thinking about the future and the past and often not present in this moment • Needing to be in control • An underlying sense of not being enough, not feeling worthy or deserving • A sense that something is missing or wrong • A feeling of lack or emptiness or dissatisfaction • Cravings and addictions and always needing something or someone in order to feel ok • Living in fear-based survival mode of freeze, fight, flight or fawn • Feeling stressed a lot of the time • Overwhelmed • Disconnected • Struggling, stuck • Not feeling safe • Feel like I don’t belong • Don’t feel accepted and loved and valued for who I am • Don’t feel deeply seen or heard or met • Always anticipating something going wrong or badly • Not wanting what is/ resisting what is and wanting it to be different • Often saying/ thinking these words: should, must, need to, have to • Suppress, avoid and/ or run away or distract myself from uncomfortable feelings If any of these resonate with you, watch the second video of this two-part video series called: ‘Home for the Homeless Mind’, where I go more deeply into the central channel breathing as a pathway to living from your whole Being and not just from the mind.
S.A.F.E.L.Y. Home to the Heart Of Love Video 1 of 3
Within the problem lies the solution. Whatever is in the way, IS the way. INSIDE the problem, not outside the problem, or behind it, or on the other side……………no……….INSIDE of it, lies the solution. Really?? Sounds almost counter intuitive and it feels paradoxical. Ok, so if that is a possibility, then the question is HOW? How do you find the solution that lies within your problem, in the problematic life situation that you currently find yourself in? I have found a SIX STEP process that has worked for me and for many of the clients that I have supported on their journey of life. In this video, I talk about the S.A.F.E.L.Y. Home to the Heart of Love process, that takes you from confusion and chaos to clear seeing and calmness. S.A.F.E.L.Y. is an acronym for this six-step process – watch the video to find out more. This process helps to disentangle you from your current life situation that you may be struggling with, so that you can see clearly what is really going on, what is actually needed, and find the peace and freedom and clarity that you long for. Watch the video below where I walk you through this six-step process.
S.A.F.E.L.Y. Home to the Heart of Love Video 2 of 3
What is S.A.F.E.L.Y. Home to the Heart of Love? It is a six-step process or map that takes you back home to yourself, back to the heart of love within you. It is a map that takes you from: Chaos and Confusion to Clarity, Calmness & Clear Seeing Struggle and Stuck-ness to Solutions and Spaciousness Frustration and Feelings that are uncomfortable to Freedom and Fulfillment Torment and Tension to Truth Lost and Loneliness to Living a Life you Love Inner War to Intuition and Inner Knowing
S.A.F.E.L.Y. Home to the Heart of Love Guided Meditation
This video is a guided meditation for the six step process called S.A.F.E.L.Y. Home to the Heart of Love. S.A.F.E.L.Y. Home to the Heart of Love is a six-step process or map that takes you back home to yourself, back to the heart of love within you. It’s a map that guides you out of your busy mind into the territory of the body where you have access to deeper wisdom, truth, clarity, insight, healing and peace. It’s a map that helps you get into your proverbial car and see what’s really going on there so that you can steer it from a place of wisdom and clarity and get to where you want to go.
OVER-EATING
Is COMFORT EATING your way of comforting yourself? Video 1 of 2
Is food your go-to place when you feel stressed, anxious, upset, worried, angry, or confused? When food becomes more than just nutrition and becomes a way of coping with life, a survival strategy that was set in motion, probably in the years of childhood, as a way of keeping you safe and protecting you and soothing you when life was turbulent, scary, and unpredictable and you felt unsafe, overwhelmed, and afraid, then this video is for you. In this video, I share these perspectives: • It’s not your fault. • Comfort eating and over eating is just a symptom – the cause and roots of this behaviour pattern are much deeper. • As humans, we all have a drug of choice, a way that we use to self-medicate and numb out and not feel uncomfortable feelings.
Is COMFORT EATING your way of comforting yourself? Video 2 of 2
Is food your go-to place when you feel stressed, anxious, upset, worried, angry, or confused? In this second video of this two part series, I share some ways of how you can get out of this war with food and come to a place where food is just food and not your emotional crutch.
RELATIONSHIPS
FIGHTING & ARGUING WITH YOUR PARTNER? 8 principles leading you from arguing to agreeing. Video 1 of 4
If you often find yourself fighting with your partner and you feel misunderstood, angry, frustrated and hurt, then this video is for you. Learn three more principles in this four video series about the 8 principles that can support you in resolving conflict in your relationship.
YOU ARE NEVER UPSET FOR THE REASONS YOU THINK YOU ARE. Video 2 of 4
You know that issue or life situation that you are fighting or arguing or disagreeing about with your partner? Well…….the real issue is probably not what you THINK it’s about. The REAL ISSUE is most often something else, that is not obvious at the moment of fighting. In other words, you are never upset for the reasons you think you are! I am going to share Video 2 in this 4-part video series that looks at principles 4, 5 and 6 of the Eight principles that support conflict resolution.
I AM BESIDE MYSELF WITH RAGE! How to come back into your centre during CONFLICT. Video 3 of 4
In today’s video I will be sharing a simple SIX STEP process that is like a map to help you find your way back home when you have gotten lost in anger and frustration and the chaos and confusion and uncertainty that often comes with conflict. Video 3 is the next step in this 4-part video series that looks at principle 7 of the Eight Principles that Support Conflict Resolution. These 8 principles, when practiced (and this is a practice, not a one-hit-wonder), can take your relationship from chaos to common ground and a fuller understanding of each other, even if it means agreeing to disagreeing.
AFTER A FIGHT, HOW TO TALK ABOUT THE DIFFICULT STUFF? Video 4 of 4
So…… you’ve had a major blow-out with your beloved. Things have fallen apart, but the storm is over. You both took some time out to reflect and get more clear about what’s really going on and you are now ready to talk again. How to do this is a way that creates understanding, connection, intimacy, and that leads to creative solutions, so that your breakdown becomes a breakthrough? Watch Video 4 to find out more. This is the last one in this 4-part video series that looks at principle 8 of Conflict Resolution in Relationships. Watch the first three videos on my YouTube channel.
Is CONFLICT destroying your RELATIONSHIP? 8 principles that can support you in resolving conflict.
In your relationship, do you argue and fight a lot, have disagreements, and differences of opinion? Is there a lot of friction, drama, strife, antagonism, hostility, falling-out, clashes, shouting matches, power struggles and war of words? . BUT…… • Has anyone ever taught you how to deal with conflict? • Do you know how to argue well? • Did your parents deal with conflict gracefully and skillfully? The good news is that you can learn ways to resolve conflict in your relationship that leads to your needs being met. Over the next four videos, I will share EIGHT principles that will help you resolve conflict and support your relationship so that your needs get met and you experience deepening connection, intimacy, understanding, healing, and growth.
PURPOSE & JOURNEY OF LIFE
Getting Lost on the Journey of Life
Sometimes we get lost in this journey of life. We may find ourselves in unknown territory and not really sure where we are and what the next step is. Here are a few tips to help you on your way.
Do you struggle to RECEIVE?
If you struggle to receive and would like to know what you can do to change that and also to learn about other ways of receiving, this video is for you.
WORK
Unhappy at work? How I changed from being unhappy at work to doing what I love.
Many years ago, I was working in Cape Town in the corporate world, wrapped in the security of a monthly pay check, when unexpectedly, I was made an offer that changed the trajectory of my life. I was offered a retrenchment package OR I could continue with the company, but I would need to re-locate to Joburg. My hearts said an inner NO to moving back to Joburg (where I lived for 40 years), while my mind started fretting over the fear of losing my financial security blanket. Of course I followed my heart and the voice of my Soul and took the retrenchment package. As I pharmacist, I began doing locums at various pharmacy retail stores ( a casual pharmacist that fills in when pharmacies are short staffed or to fill in on weekend shifts) – but I hated it. I felt exhausted at the end of each shift – I did it because I needed the money. Watch this video to find out how I got to the space where I am now: doing the work I LOVE and feeling fulfilled, content and inspired.
What are you willing to let go of in order to have and experience what you deeply desire?
What are you willing to let go of in order to have and experience what you deeply desire, in order to have and experience that which really feeds and nourishes your soul and is a true expression of your soul and heart longing? Are you using your time doing stuff that is in alignment with what you truly value?
The stories in our head that keep us in suffering and stop the flow of peace and joy
What story are you carrying around with you that is keeping you from being present to what is happening in your life, and that prevents you from opening to the joy and beauty and bliss of this moment? Are you feeling stuck and burdened and not really wanting to be where you are? Do you wish you were somewhere else doing something else?
The dance of relationship
What is the dance like in your relationship with your beloved? Are you too enmeshed in each other’s worlds, or does it feel like there is an ocean between you and you are disconnected? How do you stay true to yourself and in tune with your own rhythm, flow and dance AND also remain authentic and in integrity in this dance with your beloved?
Sometime, all you need to do is just take the next step
When things are really difficult in your life and you are feeling trapped or overwhelmed, afraid and stuck, and you can’t see what the next step is that you need to take or where the path is, what do you do?
How to turn power struggles in a relationship into a win-win for you both
In a relationship, what do you do when your needs differ from your partner and neither of you are willing to compromise on your position? You find yourself in a power struggle with your partner and you both feel frustrated, misunderstood and dissatisfied.
Going with the Flow as you step into the Unknown
When you step into the unknown and leave behind what is familiar and safe, a deeper surrender to each moment is very helpful. Experience living in the paradigm of trust in Existence knowing that you are deeply loved and that the flow of life is happening already, so allow it to happen and stay present, open, spacious and ready to take action when prompted to do so.
The mirror of relationship – how all relationships can help you know yourself more deeply
We all have blind spots – aspects of our personality that we are not aware of, and that often cause us (and others) much suffering. When we react strongly to situations or people and our buttons get pushed, we have a wonderful opportunity of seeing an aspect of ourselves that perhaps, we were not aware of before. This is the gift of the mirror that others are to us, so that we can see ourselves more clearly. But it does require us to put our ego to one side and really look at what is being mirrored, feel the discomfort that gets triggered and, with compassion and kindness, love this aspect of ourselves and let go of this pattern of behaviour that may no longer serve us.
Magic happens when you allow, let go, surrender and trust the flow of life
What would happen to you and your life is you let go a little more? Would things fall apart, or would you discover a new way of being in the world, where it is less about striving and missioning and doing, and more about being and allowing and going with the flow?
What do you use or do to avoid feeling uncomfortable feelings?
What do you do when things go wrong in your life, or they don’t turn out the way you expected or wanted them to? What happens to you when life throws you a curved ball or when you are faced with a challenging situation that does not fit into your plans? WHAT happens to you is not as important as HOW you deal with what happens to you and how much presence you bring to the situation you are faced with.
Do you sometimes you feel sad, or lonely, angry or frustrated? Maybe at times, you feel bored or irritated, restless or stuck. These are uncomfortable feelings that we don’t want to feel and so we find all sorts of ways to avoid feeling them. What do YOU do to not feel these feelings? What is your drug of choice that you medicate yourself with to numb out rather than feel?
Just take the next step
If you find yourself feeling stuck and you don’t know what to do – sometimes doing nothing is the best thing. Just being with what is and accepting it as it is… and sometimes, it is good to just take the next step – one step – do one thing and be amazed at how Life rises to meet you.
Healing childhood wounds
Do you sometimes find yourself reacting to a person or situation or event in a way that is extremely emotional, irrational, out of character and causes a lot of drama and suffering? Or perhaps you are stuck in a habitual self-destructive behaviour or pattern that no amount of will power or positive thinking is able to shift you out of?
Do you find yourself triggered by certain kinds of people or situations, and before you know it, you have reacted by saying or doing something that often makes the situation worse?
How do you transform these patterns so that you can experience more inner peace and harmony and respond calmly instead of reacting emotionally?
Your body often speaks to you through pain, illness and discomfort –
are you listening to it?
Do you experience any pain or discomfort in your body? Do you suffer from a chronic condition that persists no matter what you try and do to heal it? Is there some form of dis-ease in your body that you don’t know how it fix? Your body is wise and intelligent and its natural state of being is healthy, energized and at ease. Imagine if you could tune into your body and ask find out what is really going on?
Feel like doing something different?
Perhaps you are stuck in a rut and feeling a bit bored with your life… same old… same old. Maybe you have thought of travelling, but your budget is a bit stretched… or maybe you are looking for a new adventure, and you are just not sure what or where. Well… maybe this video will spark something inside of you!
Saying Goodbye to China
As my time in China comes to an end, I reflect on this dance of life between form and the formless, and between time and the timeless…
Everything changes
Nothing ever stays the same… things are always changing -whether it be your life situation, wonderful moments you experience, challenging times you are going through,your vibrant health, the illness you are dealing with, your body, the weather, friendships… the nature of life is change.
How can you embrace change with more ease and less suffering?
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Listen to the warning signs that life sends you
We all face challenges and unexpected life situations, curved balls come our way, things go wrong, difficulties arise suddenly… that is life happening, and it’s not personal. It happens to everyone. However, there are often warning signs, messages and signals that come our way before the event happens that, if we were to take note of, could REALLY help us down the line.